Yesterday, I mentioned that I was going to talk about food today, but I’m not sticking to my usual WIAW recipe sharing. (Don’t worry. That’s coming back next week!) I’m going to talk more about perspective and how I’ve changed my habits.
After discussing the increase in our portion size, she brought a little perspective to the table.
Say you decide to stop for that 16-ounce mocha latte with whipped cream one morning and you love it. (Some friends on my personal page have seen this already.) You love it so much, you start stopping every morning to treat yourself. Treats are allowed, right? Absolutely. You’re not “dieting”, you’re not trying to lose weight – you’re just maintaining your weight. It’s just a coffee, no big deal. Oh, if I had only learned not to think that way. You change nothing about your diet or your exercise routine. You ready?
That coffee has 350 calories in it. That’s not the shocker.
In 10 days you’ll gain a pound. No big deal, I know.
In a year, you’ll gain 36.5 pounds, simply by enjoying a new, 16-ounce “cup of bliss”.
36.5 pounds from a sugary liquid!?!?! Holy crap!!!!!
The crazy part of this? I know this. I know this occurs in others’ lives every day. One small change to your daily intake, and boom! You’re packing on 36.5 pounds in a year all because you added a drink that you really like to your daily routine. I’ve read statistics and stories like this a thousand times, and you know what? It never ceases to shock me.
I should make myself clear, though. Treating yourself is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s recommended that you treat yourself once in a while to avoid deprivation and overwhelming cravings that cause otherwise healthy diets to go awry. Have a treat!!
But don’t do the 16-ounce, 350-calorie sugar-laden coffee every day. If you do, then work for it! Walk for an hour and a half. Run for 30-45 minutes. Or, better yet, cut down on your portion size!!!
This brings me to my issue. I fall into the category of 350-calorie coffee drinkers.
Well, I used to.
There was a time in my life when I had a pint of Ben & Jerry’s Half Baked ice cream…every night. I ballooned. There was a time in my life when I ate just as much as a “growing boy”. Pasta filled an entire dinner plate.
Side note: did you know that the average dinner plate has increased from 8” to 16” or more??? Perspective – it’s a beautiful thing.
What have I changed about the way I eat?
I eat from the small plates that come with the dinnerware sets. Unless it’s a salad. Then it’s a big-ass bowl with a teensy weensy bit of dressing. That reminds me – I need to start making homemade dressing.
I treat myself only once in a while. Not every day. Or if I do treat myself every day, it’s with something like this. Chobani Blood Orange and pistachios??? Yes please!!!
I treat myself with healthier treats. A flavored Greek yogurt with mix-ins. A Starbucks “Skinny” Vanilla Latte. Strawberries and whipped cream. Why? Because I love healthy treats as much as I love the indulgent ones. It’s criminal, I know.
I’ve learned to control my portions. See the dinner plate bit above. I’ve downgraded from the venti to the tall. Sometimes I’ll take the grande. I don’t finish the 24” plate of food when we’re out. I save most of it.
I make room for a treat in my diet. At least I try. I’m not perfect, but I don’t treat myself to things like this every day. Not anymore. It’s about balance. Calories in, calories out. Healthy with a dash of indulgent. I even do a little extra moving to work it in there. Again, I’m not perfect, but I’m working on it. Tee hee.
I have decreased my sugar intake by half. I am working to bring it down to the equivalent of a few pieces of fruit and maybe some change. (Fact: a venti mocha Frappuccino has 72 grams of sugar. Have one every day and that comes to 63 pounds of sugar a year.) Sugar is what brings me to my knees…and I’m working hard to reprogram my brain to crave refined sugar far less often.
**Side note: Just to clarify myself: I mentioned that I drink the “skinny” vanilla latte once in a while and not the fully loaded Frappuccino. “Skinny” simply means I make healthier substitutions (i.e. low-fat or skim instead of cream). A couple of people mentioned having “treats” and/or wanting the “real thing”, and I want to make myself clear: treating yourself is not bad. The scenario above is every day. Not a once in a while thing. (I thought I had reiterated this enough on Facebook, but apparently I hadn’t.) Treating yourself to a giant piece of sugary heaven every single day is bad. It’s what’s contributing to this country’s obesity epidemic! We’re an all or nothing country – most of us either overindulge all the time or nix everything and go all nutso health-freak. (That’s how I got into this mess.) I can’t help but feel as though people were thinking I was being the treat police and that I’m not living on the edge. Haha. I drink the “skinny” version of a much less sugary coffee, because those crazy Frappuccino drinks make me ill. Legit. I can’t stomach them – they’re just too much for me. My taste is my taste. That doesn’t mean I’m telling everyone to stop treating themselves to the “real” deal. I’m not the treat police. I’m the “cheat” police. Muahahaha.
I’m taking small steps. I’ve tried changing all of this at once, and it just hasn’t worked for me. I’m finally beginning to feel some peace creep up in my relationship with food. I’ve got a long way to go, because I’m ready to make this a lifestyle and not a fix-it-and-leave-it kind of thing. So far, everything about the way I feel has changed, and I love it.













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Yes! Love this – treating yourself EVERY DAY no longer makes it a ‘treat’. Thanks for being the cheat police
Also, we have the same dishes!
Yay for good dish taste.
See, I think having a treat every day would be fine as long as it’s within reason. Like a glass of wine. Some would argue it’s a staple, lol, but it’s really a treat.
I feel like I wrote this post! Two years ago, I realized that maybe the reason I couldn’t stop gaining weight was my DAILY coffee shop drink…and I’m talking ALL the extras. I dropped down to 2 a week, then 1 a week, then just as a real treat and it helped me. THEN I looked at the rest of my diet. Those small daily treats were adding up. My plate was huge, so obviously my portions were as well. It REALLY is all about perspective & looking at the whole picture. Am I perfect?? GAWD NO!!! But I’m better now that I was 2 years ago.
ps- DEFINITELY make your own salad dressing. SO healthy & tastes much better than the storebought stuff!
Isn’t it crazy what happens when you stop for a second and become aware of yourself? In anything? We’re such a go go go go go society that we don’t stop to listen to our bodies. When we do, we’re shocked. lol
I’ll be trying a dressing with my balsamic vinegar w/ pear and lemongrass.
I love Chobani’s Blood Orange!
I have found for myself, that it took removing sugar completely from my diet before I could be satisfied with healthy treats like raspberries in coconut milk or fried bananas with almond butter and coconut flakes. I had to reset my taste buds (and body) so they understood how sweet and delicious these healthy options are. I have the option of adding sugar back into my diet in 9 days (doing Whole30), but I know I need more time away from frozen yogurts and dark chocolate, let alone the ice creams and chai lattes.
Great post, with lots of really helpful tips. Thanks for sharing!
I love it, too.
I love that you made it work for you. With me, when I nixed sugar completely, I got nuts, craved it way too often, and then the temptation got to me. Binge party up in here! I have to take it slow…remove one or two things from the house (or hide them – if I see it, I want it)…and then when I have a sweet tooth I go for the things I do allow myself. I’ve also learned that forcing yourself to like certain things can backfire, too. (At least for me.) The second I did that was the second I gagged and ran…and found my hiding place.
We’re just two of the many ways you can make portion control or breaking habits all about finding what works for you.
Couldn’t agree more with this post about portion control but I do like my daily treats – as long as I have worked out/been active and I don’t go too crazy, I like to have a little dense fruit cake after dinner with some halva. It’s what I look forward to!
Daily treats are totally cool…but as you said, you work for it. For someone who’s cool at the weight s/he is at to change nothing about their diet and add a 350-calorie drink in? WHOA. lol I think the big problem I see with people (myself included in the past) is that we’re all allowed a “treat” every day, because “life needs to be lived” or “I’ve had a bad day”. Yet, no one will move for it. Know what I’m saying?
I don’t blame you for enjoying a treat every day…especially since you’re active!
(But I know you’re not downing a 350-calorie sugary coffee.
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I love this post! I feel like I say that a lot lately on yours, but such insight here!! Again! You are applying so much of what you are learning in your own habits and your learning and sharing it, paying it forward and applying it to your own habits as you reform them and make new ones. I absolutely agree that portion control is huge, as is second helpings, for that matter. I ALWAYS used to get seconds, almost automatically. Now, I judge my satisfaction level (note, I did not say fullness level!) and wait a few mins and then decide. Makes a huge difference. I rarely go for seconds now! Well done my friend!
You know what’s funny? I have a lot going on up in here *points to head* in terms of opinion and perspective and all-out deep thought. I have a few posts coming that I just need to get out there. Hehe.
I ALWAYS went for seconds or thirds when I was growing up. (You bring up mindfulness (satisfaction level, waiting, and LISTENING), and that’s one topic on my plate for the coming week. Haha.) Anyways, always did the seconds and even thirds and always felt full. I was under the impression that you needed to be full to be satisfied! Boy was I wrong.
You and Jess turned me on to starting a food journal again, and I can’t thank you enough. It’s helped bring so much awareness into my life.
So rather than glom on and say the SAME THING that Jo said in response to this post, all i can say is holy wow do I agree. With ALL of this. It is INCREDIBLY eye-opening once you sit down and really pay attention to your food choices and more importantly, food HABITS. It was so striking to me when I started looking at my eating from a HABIT standpoint vs. just my food choices. Why did I ‘need’ a second helping (similar to Jo’s point) just because it was there? Why did my post-dinner ‘treat’ need to be endless or ‘always’ a bowl of ice cream vs. a dove promise (which I eat one of almost EVERY night, best 45 calories ever)? Why did I think weekends were meant to throw caution to the absolute wind, blowing it out of the water on the food / drink calorie scale?? Once I started to see it all pile up, it was jaw dropping…especially coming from someone who *thought* she was the healthiest eater around…yet those lingering annoying pounds stuck around and I had no idea why. It is SO SO SO cool when you can finally get to the point where the food log is NOT a stressful thing but a WELCOME TOOL to keeping you aware but happy and balanced (no deprivation!). Annnnd now my blog comment is basically a blog post, sorry lol!
i eat off small plates too!
This makes me happy.
If I’m doing something similar to you, I know I’m doing it right.
Great post! I used to eat HUGE portions. I learned to control that
Pistachios in GY…sounds awesome!
I do love me a Skinny VL too
I find that small steps are best. Drastic changes sometimes don’t last too long. Keep at it!
Great post Melissa! I always eat off of small plates as well. It’s so easy to control your intake.
Have a great week <3
Great Post!! I just stumbled across your blog after reading Peas and Crayons.
Will be tuning in for more! Plus you have an awesome name
SUCH a great post! And totally agree about just enjoying HEALTHY treats and reasonable portions.
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